In November 2016, a few days after arriving at Benefis Peace Hospice in Great Falls, Montana, my wonderful husband, Doug, became confused and agitated. He’d been living with penile cancer for thirteen months and was near the end of a very painful journey, yet until that evening he had maintained his usual jovial demeanor. I quickly pressed the call button and then reassured him until the nurse arrived, thankful to be among competent and loving caregivers at such a scary moment.
Just before moving into in-patient hospice care Doug surprised me one morning with a love letter he'd written for me. A couple of days later he read the letter aloud so I could record this video. I am so glad we did that! Hearing my beloved's voice and seeing the love in his eyes reminds me of how truly adored I felt, every single day of our life together.
Why is communication so hard?!? Most of us have wanted to shout that from the rooftops at least once in our lives. I know I have, and effective communication is my area of expertise!
When communication seems hard, it is because we are focusing on what's outside of ourselves. Either we try to memorize personality types, body language tips and role playing scripts, or we spend hours analyzing our own and other people's words & actions, trying to predict what will happen. How exhausting - and confusing!